Category Archives: Friends

South Africa here I come

Finally that time of year has come where Emma, Griffin and I don our travellers socks and head off for the warm South African climes…

Too bad it’s wet and cold there right now.

Oh well, the warmth of the reception we will get will surely more than make up for that.

A week in the Kruger Park with my brother, my mom and friends and family promises to start things off really well with some good quality relaxation before getting stuck into the hearty business of seeing and drinking and playing with all those people and places I miss so much.

I gather that there will be a lot of catching up to do as it seems so much has happened since I was there last April.

You cannot live somewhere else without the changes that happen in the place you were appearing to be gargantuan I suppose, much like watching a child grow up as a distant relative. One day he or she is still pooing in nappies and the next they are begging you to buy them booze at the local pub. How fast they grow…

Speaking of growing fast, Griffin is growing at a rate of knots, it scare me sometimes. I go to London for a week and I come back and he is a young adult. Luckily for me he regresses all the way back to six years old almost every time :)

Either way, I am amped, thrilled and FUCKING excited to be seeing all the people I have left behind but not forgotten.


Crowdsourcing grief

A little earlier today I was tabbing through a random album link that Facebook presented to me and I was faced with a picture of a friend (Nazar) who very sadly passed away last year.

Having a nostalgic moment I went to his still active Facebook profile and penned a simple note on his wall:

Thinking of you today bud :)

I then had a look at the constant stream of messages that people he knew had been putting on his wall. Hardly a day seems to go by without someone sending a simple little something to this electronic wall to say that they still remembered and cared. I was extremely touched and felt much better for having done it.

I then carried on browsing through his pictures online, thinking about the good times we had had and the people that knew him.

A short while later Facebook let me know that someone else (Darla) had “liked” my comment on his wall.

I had felt good about the positive messages I had seen on his wall, but someone else approving of my comment made me feel that my grief was shared, even now and took a load off and got me thinking about grief in a whole new way.

In the current Internet economy, the term “crowdsourcing” has recently come to light. Wikipedia defines it like so:

Crowdsourcing is the act of outsourcing tasks, traditionally performed by an employee or contractor, to an undefined, large group of people or community (a “crowd”), through an open call.

So, this concept of outsourcing a task to a large undefined group of people seems to fit rather well. I mean my normal channel for helping me deal with something like grief is my immediate freinds and family for sure, but this longer term stuff just shows that we as humans are not a badly doomed as so many of us think. We still have some hope as we bungle our way through life on this spinning sphere we call Planet Earth.

I love my family, my friends and my “crowd” – you all rock and make this weird twisted fucked up world I live in one that I want to carry on living in, if only to see how next I will be surprised by you all ;)

Inspired by Darla and Naz